This is so dang simple everyone looking for fellow gamers ought to be using it. If you've already signed up for nearbygamers.com it may be time to check your profile. Mine had an old address on it and I know one dude on that map has moved out of state. Also, your tags might need a little editing.
Then the next step is to hopefully find someone nearby and use the site's private message function to contact them.
"Man, is there anything Jeff CAN'T do when it comes to gaming? This guy is like a critical 20 every roll. Jeff can bite the heads offa five game geeks, including their sorry-ass DM, and spit 'em into a large duffel bag ONE AT A TIME!...that's just the kind of messed up bastard he is! You think yer a gamer, punk? Well..do ya? Jeff will depants your weasel-ass right in front of your grandma."